Less is more… we have all heard that phrase. We all know what it means. But do we really adhere to it? I know I didn’t. I always had to have it all. Do it all. Be it all. Well, a few weeks ago I reached my breaking point.
I was so stressed. Stressed with the house, stressed with work, stressed with the kids and I stopped and took a good look around at what I was doing that was making me so stressful.
Let me back up a few years, 11 to be exact.
11 years ago I was kid less and had a great job! Loved my job! I worked at the Kennedy Krieger Institute as a behavioral therapist. It was very rewarding and I loved it. I was also going to grad school for my Masters in Education. I was BUSY.
Then I had my oldest son and everything STOPPED. Stopped working, finished school, stopped hanging out with all my “working” kid less friends. Everything came to a screeching halt.
But, it’s what I wanted. I wanted to be a stay at home mom. Or did I?
We always want what we don’t have. I wanted to have children and I wanted to be able to stay at home and raise them.
Don’t get me wrong I was and still am very grateful that I am able to do that. But I went from going 100 miles a minute to zero.
I had to find new mommy friends and I had to sort of find a new me. A mommy me.
It was hard. I won’t lie. Staying home was a hard thing to do. Hubby and I had our ups and downs, having a baby is stressful enough on its own, but when you do not have family around to chip in and help, it makes it a lot harder. The whole, it takes a village and all… I totally buy into that now.
But we got through it. I did find new mommy friends. Some that I don’t know how I would have done it without them. Did the mommy stuff, play dates, My Gym classes, going to the park, etc.
When Gabriel (my oldest) was about 3 I became pregnant with my second son, Rhett. It wasn’t as life changing as when I had Gabriel, I sort of knew what to expect at that point.
Once Rhett was born and Gabriel was in preschool, it was then that I decided to “work” from home.
I felt the need to do something other than wipe butts and laundry, so I started an online eCommerce – Hautelava. And since that wasn’t enough for me, a few years after that I decided to become a travel agent. A Disney Travel agent to be specific. A year into that, I decided to open up my own travel agency – Mousekeplanner.
So here we are. present day. It’s been about 6 years since I started Hautelava and 2 since I became a travel agent, 1 since I opened the agency and my plate is so full that there was heaping gobs of “stuff” falling off of it. I had so much “stuff” to do that I didn’t know what to do first.
I was at my desk one day. Working on clients reservations for Disney, getting orders packed up for Hautelava, looking at the disarray in my house, angry at myself because I didn’t run today because I “didn’t have the time”, realizing we had to get to the baseball field soon, getting frustrated with my boys because I was “busy” and stopped. No lie. It was like someone slapped me upside the head and said.
“SLOW DOWN… LESS IS MORE… WHY are you doing this?”
Why was I doing this? Why was I so busy? Why was I taking away time from my family for work that I really don’t need to be doing? What is so wrong with just being a “stay at home mom”.
Yep, I had an epiphany.
I had already removed toxic people from my life. That’s a whole other blog post. But it was now time for me to remove the “busy-ness” from my life so I could focus on what is the most important thing in my life, and that is my family. Me included. I needed to get back to the basics. Taking care of me, my husband and my boys. Period. Everything else can wait.
So, I closed down Hautelava. Yep. Just like that. closed. I still have some inventory up on eBay, but it will be gone by the end of the year.
I have begun to delegate more within Mousekeplanner. I do not have to do it all and help everyone. More clients will be handled by other agents.
I will focus on myself EVERYDAY. And my family, EVERY NIGHT.
So here we are. Less is more. And I can honestly tell you that I am excited to not have so much to do. It’s very liberating. Maybe I will finally get caught up on the 45 episodes of General Hospital I have on DVR ;), but I do know that tomorrow I will either run or go to the gym for myself and then spend the afternoon with my boys. Without any stress or worries about what needs to get done.
until next time~